when you don’t know how you feel… so everyone decides for you
When you don’t have an answer yet, but everyone around you is certain you should. That gap — between your own unprocessed feelings and other people’s reactions — is its own kind of stress, and it’s more common than it feels in the moment.
when escape starts to feel more real than real life
Why do comforting escapes sometimes start to feel more real than our actual lives? This reflection explores escapism, dissociation, comfort shows, scrolling, and the emotional pull of imagined worlds through the film I Saw the TV Glow.
nope (2022) & the human need to be believed
Sometimes we tell painful stories repeatedly because part of us is still trying to convince ourselves they really happened. A reflection on Nope (2022), trauma, and the need to be believed.
what the lovebirds (2020) gets right about the challenges of long-term relationships
What The Lovebirds gets right about long-term relationships is that conflict, bickering, and changing needs don’t mean something is wrong — they mean you’re human and in relationship. A reflection on what it really takes to keep choosing each other over time.
hunt for the wilderpeople (2016) shows us that we’re worthy of love
Hunt for the Wilderpeople challenges the idea that you must love yourself before you can be loved. Through Ricky, Hec, and Bella, the film shows how being loved, exactly as we are, can teach us we’re worthy of love long before we believe it ourselves. Sometimes love reaches us first.
the apartment (1960): a holiday movie that’s honest about pain & hope
A reflection on The Apartment (1960), holiday films, and the emotional reality of surviving suicidal thoughts — and the quiet hope that can follow even our darkest moments.